On Sunday night, fiance and I were sitting in a Mexican restaurant when I noticed a man across the room. We were seated in the bar area and he was out in the dining room, so he couldn’t really see me, but I had a clear view of him and his partner. The man easily weighed 400 pounds.

He was directly in my line of vision, so I kept glancing at him occasionally and I kept wondering: Why was he so fat? Why had I been so fat at one point? Will I look like that again someday?

I thought about what would it be like to have a conversation with the man, if I could sit down and ask him why he was so overweight. I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t know.

It might sound kind of silly, but I didn’t know why I was fat until I started to lose weight. I knew that I did not like being fat, but I never really made the connection between the foods that I so gluttonously loved and my weight. It was only once I learned the tried-and-true methods of weight loss — portion control and calorie counting — that I realized just how much I’d been eating.

It could be said that I am one of the lucky ones who doesn’t have any strings attached to my eating. I am not an emotional eater, and I do not have binging issues. For me, the “burn more than you take in” approach worked until I was diagnosed with insulin resistance and polycystic ovarian syndrome in September 2008. Then it became a matter of counting the right kind of calories.

Five years into my weight loss and I know why I was fat. Recently, I’ve been asking, Why can I not lose all of the fat? I wrote last week that I got really fit without losing all of the fat. And I’ve mentioned numerous times that I love cardio but am not really a fan of strength training. It kind of hit me this morning while I was doing a move from SELF magazine, the dolphin downsizer.

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You start in the yoga dolphin pose and then extend one leg up for five counts, switch legs, and that’s one rep. It’s hard as hell and I felt it immediately in my core, legs and shoulders.

So, there I was in my living room, dripping in sweat and exhausted to a point I can no longer reach through cardio. And I realized: This is what I need to do.

To succeed at weight loss, you need to have this kind of conversation with yourself — and it’s something you’ll have to revisit on ocassion. But it’s a question only you can answer.

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